Broken Tiles
Life is complicated and messy...Brian & Stacey Upton play question games each episode that spark intimate and personal revelations about their marriage, personal hopes and fears, raising kids and the challenge of planning the next chapter. Follow us on Instagram! www.instagram.com@thebrokentilespodcast
Broken Tiles
Bidet's Up The B-Hole , Banzai Pipeline & Zen Rage
Filmed right from Marco’s home on the North Shore of Hawaii—right in the middle of the Pipe Masters competition—this special video episode of Broken Tiles gives us a rare, behind-the-scenes look at a 34-year marriage, all sparked by three deceptively simple questions.
The first one—"What would you never have done without me?"—opens the door to some eye-opening confessions. Brian admits he might never have fully "gotten his shit together" without Stacey’s influence, while she realizes she would never have experienced the slower pace of northern New York—an unexpected but perfect setting to raise their kids. And then there's the hilarious revelation: Stacey would have never, ever used a bidet in a public bathroom if not for Brian’s, uh, strong endorsement. That story somehow leads to a highly entertaining breakdown of their morning adventure hunting for Portuguese malasadas (aka delicious donuts) in Waikiki.
When they dive into each other’s "favorite imperfections," things get even more interesting. Stacey loves how Brian—who's always giving advice about balance and mindfulness—sometimes completely loses his own zen. Meanwhile, Brian gets a kick out of Stacey’s ever-changing approach in the kitchen, which has somehow led to an amusing role reversal. Their different worldviews come into focus when they answer which historical event they’d love to witness: Brian picks the Big Bang, Stacey goes for the sinking of the Titanic. (Interpret that how you will.)
But the most touching moment? When they call out each other’s hidden "superpowers." Brian’s got razor-sharp comedic timing—despite thinking he just yells to be funny—and Stacey has this natural ability to make people instantly feel at home. And, of course, their dog Mija steals the show, constantly interrupting and nearly taking down the podcast equipment in the process.
So, what would your partner say if you asked them these questions? Listen now, then try it for yourself—you might be surprised at what you learn.
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Speaker 2:Get your shit together. We're on video. Let's just play a little bit because we're on the island. Stace. This is the Broken Tiles Podcast, first ever video produced YouTube TV. Stacey internet personality influencer oh gosh.
Speaker 1:Hardly.
Speaker 2:Working on the volume, trying to do my board right here between my legs, which is kind of gross, but that's how we're going to do it. Nelly's Magic Moments North Shore Invitational Guests running in and out the last two days of significant celebrity and fame.
Speaker 2:Including Mija Mija come celebrity and fame, including Mija. Mija, come on, come on, mija, up up, come on, she's going to do her own thing. We will have a guest at some point that will jump up on the couch. I guess she's kind of become like a co-host. She's become a house mascot. Mija, the celebrity podcaster, will be in and out. She's been adorable. Marco is giving us his house and abdicated his whole space for five days. Yeah, it's very impressive.
Speaker 2:It's been so much fun, so generous. Yeah, and I think for Nellie and I we've talked about doing the North Shore Invitational and his podcast over here for almost a year that's at least toward the year and trying to do it in the middle of the Pipe Masters which is going on right now as we speak, and it kind of all came together yesterday. You know, a break in the competition, tons of people coming through and it's just kind of worked out fantastically. And we figured, since it's a quiet day today, we've got maybe a hike in Waimea Valley snorkeling when the sun comes out. Maybe the tide goes down a little bit. That's the plan. And then we thought we'd sneak into Broken Tiles.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because it's been a while.
Speaker 2:You know, the one thing I won't have here. You're right, the one thing I won't have is my fun. I've got to figure that part out. I don't have my board to do my question sound, that's right, so we're just going to have to rock it out and be a little bit quieter than we usually are. I'm lacking my production board, which we'll figure out. She's going to be the star of this whole show.
Speaker 1:I know she's so cute.
Speaker 2:Let's just do it. It's kind of an abbreviated one just to figure out this format. Do it on film a little bit, but we can definitely ask the questions and let's see. I can't remember like the sounds that I usually use. It's what's it sound like? How's that? That's pretty good. Question one.
Speaker 1:Question one. These questions are from the Skin Deep, the author's name of this book. His last name is Topaz. I'm not remembering his first name, but it's from 12 Questions for.
Speaker 2:Love is the name of the book.
Speaker 1:Oh shit.
Speaker 2:Okay, does he need to close her ears? Hold on, no, no, no, I'll close her ears, it's totally puppy appropriate. I'm going to be very distracted this whole podcast.
Speaker 1:I know what's new. Okay, what is something you never would have done if it weren't for me?
Speaker 2:Something I never would have done if it wasn't for you. This is a broad one, but this is, and I truly we haven't had this question. It's always we kind of get to the point. Now we always talk about it. There's a lot of these ones, but I can I've referenced it a lot with you and I know the one thing I never would have done I'm unconfident. I would have never gotten my shit together. Is that fair Cause? Again, I just think that, um, it's hard for me to imagine you know my kind of general mindset and the way I was kind of going about my life and it's probably a little an extreme example and I would have gotten together in some fashion. But I do think if you and I hadn't connected when we did, had the life we have together and sort of eventually gone through it all together, I don't know if I would have gotten it all the way together. That's my answer. Okay, how about you? Do you have one? I think that's pretty fair.
Speaker 1:Well, my first one was it's kind of silly, but I can think a little more broadly. But I'm just going to share the first one because I think it's pretty true. It just happened yesterday morning. I would not have used a bidet in a public bathroom.
Speaker 2:I'm going to make you answer this twice.
Speaker 1:I know I already have a second one All right, but I'm very comfortable having this conversation. But the public bathroom? No, because I used the same restroom the day before and I was not going to use any of the features on the washlet.
Speaker 2:And I think I would agree with you that I would be mostly not down with it. But then when the amenities, the seat warmer, the four levels of pressure, With water temperature, the pulsing options of. Of soft and hard, Straight up the b-hole. A waterfall on the b-hole, yeah. By that I mean the butthhole. A waterfall on the B-hole yeah.
Speaker 1:By that I mean the butthole. I know what you mean, honey.
Speaker 2:It was the well.
Speaker 1:Tell the whole story from your perspective, like as far as your day what you did, and then the I was there with Kelly the day before and we both used the bathroom I've never seen it's called a washlet instead of a toilet and it's got like a built-in bidet and a seat warmer and all these features. And it was just so weird to be in a public restroom with all these options on a toilet and I was just like no way. But then the next day we went right when it's in like a food court, shopping mall and it was, you know, just opened. Everything was clean. I don't think anybody had been in there before us.
Speaker 2:And.
Speaker 1:Brian was so excited to try it.
Speaker 2:Well, I was like when the conversation, the conversation of the bidet, had me my mind blown oh yeah, that you guys didn't blow that water up your b-holes.
Speaker 1:It just doesn't sound that attractive. But you know, when I did it it was pretty awesome.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and so the next day we went for Portuguese donuts.
Speaker 1:Yes, malasadas, pennies, pennies, malasadas.
Speaker 2:Pennies malasadas and we went there the next morning, right out of the gate.
Speaker 1:The place was just opening up In Waikiki we the next morning, right out of the gate, the place was just opening up In Waikiki.
Speaker 2:We're staying in Waikiki, yeah, waikiki. So it's a firm promotion. I've never had a Portuguese donut.
Speaker 1:Me neither.
Speaker 2:You neither. And there we were made to order, oh yeah, Eight to ten minutes to kill Yep, and I killed 11 minutes in that bidet. That's true. I've used it before, when we I was in Rome, I think it's just um, you know, I feel like we've used them before in different circumstances. Here and there. We bought one. We never installed Cause I think we had to drill through and shit like that. Um, but the common sense tells me we use tap water in our showers and we we just throw it up there, we do whatever without thinking about it. We're in a hotel, we're in wherever we are, and we're taking that water and throwing it in and around that area and it's um, you know it's, it's tap water coming from that thing. I think what you're probably talking about is the additional microbes that might be.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I mean, it's like a panel with buttons to push and I just couldn't get over who, how many people have pushed this without having washed their hands? It was a bit gross that part.
Speaker 2:Well, and that's the one press, only I didn't put my, I didn't press and then put my finger at my b-hole. I used it to basically and I figured eventually enough, maybe the first part of it, yes, maybe you're, maybe you're basically getting some water, some shit from the air, literally.
Speaker 1:Literally Well they say, even when you flush a toilet, you're supposed to close the lid because things come out.
Speaker 2:I look right down at it.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God, Do you put your face over it and then kiss me with that mouth? I look at it.
Speaker 2:It's like before all of our fancy doctors. That's how we knew as species we were healthy.
Speaker 1:I guess so you drop it.
Speaker 2:you look at it, but that was amazing. I think I'm going to play the outro music. Okay, that was a great podcast.
Speaker 1:Are we done?
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know. I think the thing is I'm realizing it can't get better. It can't get better. You started with a winner. What's your real answer, although I'm considering making that it's a pretty good answer. Do you have another one?
Speaker 1:Well, it's more broad and vague. I mean, I certainly wouldn't have lived in northern New York if it weren't for you. That opportunity would never have happened.
Speaker 2:It sounds like you have some resentment.
Speaker 1:No, it was a great place to raise our kids.
Speaker 2:It resentment? No, I, it was a great place to raise our kids, it was wonderful, I like it. And then, but broadening it out, I think, yes, that's I guess, stay there. And I think for me it's implicit that I don't think I not that I wouldn't have got my shit together, but I don't think I would have been challenged to kind of like get myself together. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:The same way, the same way that we did but on yours, the move to Northern New York.
Speaker 2:Um, what, what's your kind of overall take back on that? Like, what's your thoughts as far as?
Speaker 1:um, I think I really learned to appreciate um a slower way of life and the inherent benefits it offers.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And it adds something to your life that I didn't think I would never have known. I needed. And it really was a wonderful place to raise our kids, because life slowed down enough that we could really enjoy certain moments, I know, when we were living in Denver, you, you know, before we moved to northern new york it was a little more frenetic it was it was hectic yeah, I think in a million reasons it came at the right time and it um, everything has its the variables and decisions you make.
Speaker 2:there's, it's that gwyneth paltrow one, I think, the sliding doors kind of like what would have been, what wouldn't have been, um, but that one on whole, especially now that you like everything else, there's a lot of raw energy or things that happened when you're in the middle of it and you maybe even blame the space you're in, but the farther we get away from it, the more it feels like it was the right decision for the family.
Speaker 1:It was. It was the right decision at that time and it was also right decision for the family.
Speaker 1:It was it was the right decision at that time. Yeah, and it was also right to leave when we did. You know, we chose to raise our kids there and when child number three finished high school, we went to California and, while we live in a small town, for a while I commuted to San Jose because that's where I had a really nice job opportunity and I loved my work. But we were back in that frenetic lifestyle or at least I was, because of the commute every day. Right, I was 17. You just never know. So you've got to give yourself a lot of time and that was hectic again Got some static going a little bit.
Speaker 2:I wonder I don't know what moved there you go, that's better. You can still, I think you shift the other way. Try it again. We're doing technical stuff right now, it's so sensitive, is that okay? Yeah, you're great, you don't have to be that close. I think it's hard to sell what it is, but we're going through technical difficulties a little bit here and there with learning this new equipment. I think it's also a little bit that we have so many wires going connected and we have a headphone extension on there so there's a.
Speaker 2:there's a lot of different moving pieces. All right, let's move to number two.
Speaker 1:Question, two Question two what is your?
Speaker 2:favorite imperfection of mine. I went first on the last one, so you go first on this one. Okay, my favorite imperfection of you, uh-oh.
Speaker 1:It is.
Speaker 2:Don't do it.
Speaker 1:No, this is good, don't say it. No, this is good, don't say it. Please don't say it, you have this great Zen mindset on the world perception and when you get overwhelmed you totally lose that Zen mindset and you feel overwhelmed.
Speaker 2:And rage. Sometimes rage yes, from perfect balance in the universe to you, m F and blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and not only perfect balance, but really dispensing advice to others about how to find perfect balance, which I love, because you offer really good insights and then when you lose that perspective yourself, that's an imperfection that I really like because it humanizes you, it makes you….
Speaker 2:Yeah, that would be annoying, as…. That would be annoying as… Is she eating it again?
Speaker 1:Yeah, she just pulled it out, it was cute.
Speaker 2:Hey mija.
Speaker 1:But I like that because it's sort of that. Oh yeah, he is like everybody else at times when life gets overwhelming, because I am easily overwhelmed at times. It's gotten better over time, but I get pretty sucked under.
Speaker 2:That would be annoying as fuck if if I not only because I do, I do, I, I think, I try to manifest it and talk it into existence you're going that way, but it would also be, um, it might actually boil over if I was actually living it all the way through. Is that what you're saying? Like if I was actually, that would be, would be, it would be, and maybe there's, maybe, that's maybe in. That is the answer of what you're searching for is there is no eventual nothingness. Eventually, we're going for it, but but if you?
Speaker 1:were there.
Speaker 2:I always think that if I have that moment, I'll disappear.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like nirvana right, that's it.
Speaker 2:You've reached it, that's it.
Speaker 1:No need to be here any longer. Yeah, but I think it. Uh, it humanizes you and it's um and that's endearing to me.
Speaker 2:I like that yeah, my favorite imperfection of yours. What is my favorite imperfection of yours? Well, you ruined it. A little space in your teeth. You fucked me over. I saw it, I loved it. It was there forever, this little crooked gap.
Speaker 1:And now, oh, how funny.
Speaker 2:I didn't know that was something you liked, I mean smile at the camera because that did not, was not, was not cheap. I don't think that would be my favorite imperfection, but that was definitely one. Yeah, bring it up. My favorite imperfection of you, I think and I don't even know if it's an imperfection is like sometimes. What would the word be? Would you consider being naive an imperfection, or is that just a?
Speaker 1:It could be. I mean, it depends on I mean it's your perspective.
Speaker 2:So whatever you perceive might be an imperfection and it's not that it's the closest word I can get, but it makes our relationship playful, and I mean that in the best way, because it's part of it's genuine, because you do. You're very good at erasing trivial small things, but then it continues. She might end the podcast. She's killing an alligator, right? Is that an alligator? I?
Speaker 1:don't know.
Speaker 2:It's a green fuzzy thing, she's also very close to chewing through the primary cord for the whole podcast right now. She could take this whole thing down. Yeah, but it's not necessarily. I'm not using the right word Naive is not the right word but it's somewhere in there that allows us to kind of have this bounce back and forth of my stupid shit. That entertains me works Only because I think it's probably not the right answer to the question. I don't know if that's an imperfection of yours. Probably not the right answer to the question. I don't know if that's an imperfection of yours. Very difficult with you because you know that by no means are you perfect.
Speaker 2:Nobody is, nobody is, nobody is, but it's limited in the way I see you as imperfections. You have one, but it's a favorite imperfection. She's in trouble here. Why don't you go up and grab her because she's going to pull that down? She's stuck. It's an emergency broadcast situation. I don't quite know what to do with that cord to make it any better. That's probably fine, just as long as she doesn't find herself right there again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the only other one I was thinking of possibly that kind of works is, you know, and it is to me, it's more. It's more along the lines of something. I don't think it's something that I love so much, but I do in a way, because it's a change Like this is one we've talked about lately, ever since, like the dizziness and things like that, you've kind of become me in the kitchen, like you used to legendarily be all ahead of it and it's as if you weren't there, and we switch places in a way. In a lot of ways outside of when I'm doing, you know, if I'm in a rush, rubbing people over, but mostly I try to keep it to one pan and as if I didn't even cook dinner, kind of thing. But you lately since the Mal Day to Bark Ma and that of you kind of, are a cooking school kid.
Speaker 2:Now, like when you say you cooked, you do the dishes, I walk in and it's like, but there's part of me that is it. Find it. I find it very lovable because it's like it's not you and it is an imperfection that makes, I guess, in a weird way, you more approachable, cause it's like it was very difficult that I was the cooking school kid that couldn't clean up after themselves and a lot of, and that's very true for what we talked about. But then the other one was um, you know, for me it's kind of it's fun to switch that place a little bit where it's not. I don't think that part's all the way come back. Yet your organization in the kitchen. You're proud. Even six months ago, you can cook a meal off of a recipe Follow a recipe.
Speaker 1:Well, and that's like packing. I used to be able to pack really streamlined the last couple trips. I can't even keep my suitcase under the weight limit.
Speaker 2:I don't know what I'm doing anymore, yeah.
Speaker 1:It's funny, I like that.
Speaker 2:Actually, I'm going to. Let's see if this even plays right now. I thought we could. We could be in the islands. I've played this before on it, yeah, but I've got to do our little. Uh, take on me, intermission and I. I think we played on one of the first one or two or three episodes.
Speaker 1:I got this one yeah, I know, but just like azuki does I've actually got one.
Speaker 2:I've got a question, good, I think. Um, oh yeah, I don't think we've done this one. If you could have been an eyewitness to any event in history, what would you choose to witness? Wow, have you ever done that one?
Speaker 1:I don't think so.
Speaker 2:Do you have one?
Speaker 1:No, I'd have to think about it.
Speaker 2:Mine's a slam dunk easy.
Speaker 1:Well share.
Speaker 2:Big slam dunk easy. Well, share big bang.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you would choose that I'm not talking about that one. I'm talking about 1973 vhs video.
Speaker 2:Oh god, I'm joking, it's um the big bang. I think if you could, um, if you it's like our conversation last night at dinner as far as things that you would want to witness and if you could do it in a space where it was comfortable. I think the question last night we were having at dinner was what do you want to do, but you're afraid to do?
Speaker 1:Yeah, what is one thing you really want to do, but you're too scared to do it?
Speaker 2:Yeah, and mine was to go to the bottom of the ocean, one of those little cramped, tiny submarines that then in the blackness see all the species. But I'm truly, not only just because of the news from a couple of years ago that one imploding on itself, but I'm truly petrified of the claustrophobic feeling of that depth. But I would want to see it, and I think yours was what Skydiving.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think skydiving would be fun. I think it'd be exhilarating and to feel what it feels like, first of all, the free fall and then to have the parachute go off and you just kind of float, I think it'd be fun. But at the same time I'm terrified.
Speaker 2:Exactly, and so this falls in that same kind of categories. Like the logistics of watching the Big Bang are impossible, but the question's fantastical and I'd want to be in that spot to see it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I like that. I think um it's terrible, almost morbid Is it watching me on the bidet?
Speaker 2:No that would be funny actually that's an event in history, but I can make that happen for you.
Speaker 1:No, no, no, no, I'm not going into the men's public bathroom in Waikiki.
Speaker 2:I am, and I'm going to bring in fried chicken next time, oh, God, we had this conversation.
Speaker 1:He wants to pass a leg of fried chicken to whoever's underneath In the other bidet.
Speaker 2:Yeah, have a moment, that's disturbing.
Speaker 1:I said it should be a burrito all wrapped up, so there's no jerk, and then it devolved from there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so do you have one?
Speaker 1:Yeah, what I was thinking of, and this is silly and I don't know that I really would want to see it, but what popped into my head is watching the Titanic.
Speaker 2:That is morbid as shit it is. It's actually cruel. I know it's terrible, but you're saying like I'm going to give you some room here. We would be watching events with no ability to change history.
Speaker 1:Right and we would be safe.
Speaker 2:And the sound of it and all of it to see. I guess you hear screaming, dying people.
Speaker 1:I just don't know, because you know we've seen it depicted in movies. But what is it really like?
Speaker 2:I just want to be to set it straight. I want to see the creation of the universe and you want to see thousands of people die. Oh, my Well, it's on the record now.
Speaker 1:It's terrible. I'm sorry. I've said that.
Speaker 2:Let's roll into the last question, okay, so we can kind of get over to the beach and watch these 40-foot waves.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, so this is a good question. Are you going to ask it? Oh God, I can keep talking, though, right? Isn't that what that means? That's right.
Speaker 2:I'm so glad this is on video right now because this has been a controversial subject the last three nights. Yeah, A very good friend of ours, Kelly, who listens to podcasts, is on this trip with us and we're at dinner. Because I, Kelly, who listens to podcasts, is on this trip with us and we're at dinner and I want, because I actually want some feedback from people that see this and at one point in the middle of the dinner, she reached across the table and did this to me and I stopped talking. Clearly, I stopped talking in the middle of my sentence and her response was you can keep talking.
Speaker 2:And I said that's not what that motion means. That's been a thing and clearly that's not what that motion means. And so that's been a thing and clearly it's been. Um, I've been testing it out on other people.
Speaker 1:She was what she was trying to say in her mind. That made sense is Brian was giving her a taste of some food and she wanted to finish what was in her mouth before she took that bite. But he was also telling a story at the same time, so that gives a little more context. But I understood what she meant. But this does typically mean Stop talking, stop talking.
Speaker 2:So the only thing I was doing this for was for you to stop talking. I know, I know, so I could do my Question three.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:What is a superpower that I have that I'm not aware of, that you're not aware of? You're becoming more and more aware of your superpowers as time kind of goes by.
Speaker 1:Superpower that you have that you're not aware of. She's presenting her belly to be scratched right now.
Speaker 2:I love her. I love her so much, she's my puppy. Let me think about what your superpower is that you're not aware of.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 2:I think you are, but not all the way. I'm going to use this one. It's that you have incredibly good, when you choose to use it, incredibly good comedic timing, and I don't think that's something you would list on a hundred things that you have. So I think it's fair for that question to answer that question. I think that's that's my answer. Is that I think the reason it's such like for me I'm a volume guy. Like I'm a volume, I'm going to put out a thousand sweet sweet burns a day.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's true, and it's just like I'm like, and they're usually aimed at me.
Speaker 2:Aimed at you, but it's like the Amazon of bullshit. Like I put out a thousand distribution points of burns and I'm hoping for four or five to land. Now you just land the same. No, you don't land the same amount. That's me. I'm a lower margin. I'm looking for a lower margin, higher volume burns. You just drop sweet burns when the time is exactly right and it's not very often yeah, but then they're 10 times the value of the burn. So we end up having the same net revenue in our burns. Because, let's say, I'm getting $0.12 per burn and I get four burns a day, right, okay, $0.48 a day is my income. You just drop one burn a day, but you get 48 cents for the one burn, and so we both have. We're just doing it a different way.
Speaker 1:I think I'm more like once a week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm, you're. You're basically the iPhone of burns and I'm like the burner flip phones like on the wall. It's like the $49 pay your own minutes.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's funny.
Speaker 2:Did we both answer it?
Speaker 1:or no. No, I have to answer for you. A superpower that you were not aware of.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:The one thing that comes to my mind, and you might be aware of it is that you you make people feel very comfortable, like immediately like me yeah, look at that, although you've been with her all week it would have been such much better street.
Speaker 2:This has become doggy porn, that video oh, oh, keep that leg down, stop it you're gonna get sued scratch your belly yeah, and I think that's fair, because I don't think I've ever. I don't. You don't see yourself, though, so I've never thought of that. I'm not. I'm not walking around thinking like I'm gonna go make people comfortable.
Speaker 1:But you this is so you Like even in a public restroom we have a public restroom theme today you will clean up the seat so that the next person doesn't have to deal with a mess.
Speaker 2:That's right. The world doesn't need to know that, but that's true.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, I'm not saying it's a mess that you made.
Speaker 2:No, I clean up bathrooms for the next person.
Speaker 1:You do not saying it's a mess that you made. No, I clean up bathrooms for the next person you do it's.
Speaker 2:I mean, who does that? Well, because I can't get away from the fact that I walked in. I'm like it's fucking gross and there's nothing but like six rolls of paper. You can do one part, throw it all in there and then wash your hands. It's, um, it's. It's something that I just do on a regular basis, so so that somebody doesn't have to, because because that is not a good feel, and especially, especially, I do it 100% of the time if it's a run bathroom, if I know a woman's going to walk in behind me and some dude's pissed all over the seat, there's just a chance. There's no way I'm leaving it. I just can't do it.
Speaker 2:It's a real gross way to end the podcast. Sorry, Do this though. Go back through your three questions quickly and do our thing, and just kind of like talk about, like you know what you think.
Speaker 1:Okay. So, like our first question was what is something you never would have done if it weren't for me? Yeah, for anybody, because I think it speaks to the power of how we might be open to something because of another person, someone that you trust, someone, whether they're your partner or a friend or a family member. I think it shows the power of how being open to something can change your life.
Speaker 2:It's exactly, and I think what we're doing now is we're expanding it out to like couples have been going out for one week, we've been married, coming up on 34 years. It's not necessarily a question that you would ask you could after a short period of time, but it's a question you ask, like how are we going to challenge ourselves in this relationship?
Speaker 1:Where are we going to challenge?
Speaker 2:ourselves in this relationship. You know, like, where are we going to? Where are we going to go in this relationship, um and and are are we going to kind of meet in the middle on some things that are our different priorities, like wearing a uh fucking hula shirt and you in a matching dress.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's my dream. I want. I want us to be wearing matching Hawaiian clothes you in a Hawaiian shirt and me in the same print dress.
Speaker 2:So you'd want to go, I could wear this, and you tell me you'd wear a sundress with this print.
Speaker 1:I totally would.
Speaker 2:And we would go out.
Speaker 1:And we would go ride a tandem bike into the sunset.
Speaker 2:Your dream, my nightmare. Yeah, okay, we'll probably end up doing this.
Speaker 1:I want a picture of it and can we put? Can we put in the same outfit Mija can be in the same outfit in the basket on the front of our tandem bike.
Speaker 2:All right, so the second one expanded out.
Speaker 1:Okay, so what's your favorite imperfection?
Speaker 2:No brainer. That's a great question to ask anybody at any point in the relationship, because imperfections can lead to imperfections on kind of communicated, can lead to breakups, divorces, things like that. If you just would have said, hey, that's, and I'm not overshare, but if there's something in the right way where you, you, um, uh, you know, because in this one's the favorite. But I think if you're open to talking transparently about imperfections, you're lowering the bar for what you can and can't talk about. We're going to openly talk about imperfections like we did. Yeah, Because it was a wonky one for me, because I'm like, well, it's not imperfection, but I'm saying you're shitty at doing dishes and it's just a safe place. I mean, it's like it's a safe place. You know to, I don't know I think it's also what.
Speaker 1:What struck me is uh, sometimes we can get I don't know what the word is Um, we can, we can think negatively about ourselves and our imperfections, and it's sort of um, the ability to see things in a different light imperfections, and it's sort of the ability to see things in a different light Imperfections. I mean, we can be so self-critical if we allow ourself to be, and really we're all human beings. Nobody is perfect. We all have our little things. We do things in certain ways. I don't know. Sometimes that can be cute. Well, we're close though. I mean, if I can, that can be cute Well we're close, though.
Speaker 2:I mean, if I can just get rid of my rage, I'm perfect.
Speaker 1:Oh, I see If I can zen out and do my things.
Speaker 2:You were just telling me today that one thing If I can just close that one gap and not flip the fuck, out, don't lose yeah, every day.
Speaker 1:I don't really love it when you flip out, but I also like to see you just be a normal person.
Speaker 2:And use my sweet curse words. You do use them well, and connected like 16 of them in one long winded. And what?
Speaker 1:was the last one. What is a superpower that I'm not aware?
Speaker 2:of. That's a good one. That's just one month, two months, 30 years. That's you finding a way to compliment somebody in a creative question. It's me complimenting you, you know, like me telling you what a super, basically me telling something amazing about you that you don't know and maybe you do, but you wouldn't say it's just a great question wouldn't say it's just a great question.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think it also highlights how um other people might see us in different ways, and that's kind of beautiful. Yeah, sometimes our self-perceptions are not fully accurate exactly.
Speaker 2:Well, should we boogie out of here?
Speaker 1:yeah, we have some waves to see and people writing them to cheer for.
Speaker 2:Select to 7, our actual licensed music. Still Anything else.
Speaker 1:Aloha.
Speaker 2:Man a big time aloha from the Marco Studios in North Shore, Hawaii, Broken Tiles first ever video.
Speaker 1:Thank you to Marco and Miha for the hospitality.
Speaker 2:Maybe this means Azuki can podcast with us now.
Speaker 1:I hope so Well, why?
Speaker 2:not? Yeah, maybe that becomes a thing is where we have guest hosts and little puppies like this.
Speaker 1:Yeah, love you, babe, love you.
Speaker 2:Bye, that's it.
Speaker 1:What's on these Short and sweet? What 35 minutes.
